8 Questions to Ask a Guy Before Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level
8 Questions to Ask a Guy Before Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level

You’ve met a new guy and things are going great – how exciting! Although you’re probably ready to pull the “Facebook official” trigger, it’s important to take a step back and ask your new partner (and yourself) a few questions first.

Here are 8 questions to ask a guy before taking your relationship to the next level:

1. What are your love languages?

There are five love languages: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Which ones speak to both of your needs? 

2. What are your conflict styles?

Although you’re probably still relishing the “honeymoon phase,” arguments are an inevitable (and normal) part of any relationship. Addressing your conflict management styles helps prepare you for tough times down the road. 

3. What are the expectations for your relationship?

Are you looking for a full-on, committed relationship or a “friends with benefits” situation? Unless you understand and agree on expectations, there’s a greater chance one or both of you will end up hurt. 

4. What are your expectations of your social life?

How often do you need alone time? What is your stance on parties? Everyone has different social preferences, so try being totally honest about them before moving forward

5. Why did your last relationship end?

No one likes talking about their exes with someone new, but it can be helpful. Having an open discussion about past breakups (without spilling all the gory details) can provide a better idea of what you both are looking for. 

6. What are your plans for the next 5 years? 10 years?

Are you ready to travel the world or settle down with a bunch of kids? Unless you’re on the same (general) page about your future together, it might not be time to escalate the relationship. 

7. What is their relationship with their family? And yours?

Understanding each other’s family dynamics, especially if religion or kids are involved, is necessary before taking the next step. Family can be a make-or-break aspect, so it’s important to tread carefully and respectfully. 

8. What are the expectations for finances?

Whether it’s deciding who pays on date night or opening a joint checking account in the future, agreeing on finances is necessary for avoiding stress and lack of trust. 

Though all relationships are different, these questions should help you and your partner move in the right direction, whether it’s together as a couple or separately as friends.